Neurodivergent Children and Homeschooling 101: Because Embracing Neurodiversity is important

Important note: If you’re anything like me (I have ADHD and I’m neurodivergent!), you’re not likely to make it through this article in one go! So just to let you know – there’s no rush to read it! You can come back to this time and time again, read it paragraph by paragraph. You can remember or forget, be inspired, or not. We got you!

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Before we discuss homeschooling neurodivergent children, it’s important to understand the difference between “neurodiverse” and “neurodivergent.” Neurodiversity is a term that refers to the variety of ways the human brain works. Everyone is part of the neurodiverse spectrum, including both those who are neurotypical (whose brains function in ways that society considers typical) and those who are neurodivergent.

Neurodivergent describes people whose brains work differently from what is considered typical. For example, people with autism, ADHD, dyslexia or dyspraxia are neurodivergent because their brains process information in unique ways. So, while neurodiversity includes everyone, neurodivergent specifically refers to those whose thinking patterns differ from the norm.

Now that we’ve established the foundation, let’s dive into homeschooling neurodivergent kids! (And don’t worry, these insights are valuable even if you’re not homeschooling.)

Homeschooling is more than just an educational choice; for many families with neurodivergent children, it’s an opportunity to embrace and celebrate their child’s uniqueness, creativity, and potential while allowing that child to also learn to celebrate themselves. Being neurodivergent encompasses a range of conditions, including dyslexia, dyspraxia, autism spectrum disorder (ASD), known in te reo Māori as Takiwātanga (“in their own time and space”), and attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD), referred to as Aroreretini (“attention able to go to many things”).

Unlike clinical terminology, which often highlights deficits (something lacking) or disorders, these terms in te reo Māori reflect the diverse and remarkable ways in which individuals think, learn, and experience the world. In Aotearoa New Zealand, te ao Māori (the Māori worldview) recognises and honours these differences as part of the rich tapestry of human diversity.

Let’s celebrate and learn about neurodiversity so our children can thrive!

Embracing Neurodiversity: A Spectrum of Strengths

Neurodivergent children bring a unique set of strengths and perspectives to learning. Whether it’s the deep focus and attention to detail seen in children with Takiwātanga, or the energy and creativity that characterise those with Aroreretini, homeschooling provides the flexibility to build on these strengths. By tailoring the educational experience to each child’s abilities and neurological diversities, parents can help them thrive both academically and personally.

The Struggles Within Traditional School Systems

While neurodivergent children possess remarkable strengths, they often face significant challenges in traditional school systems and society at large—a reality many neurodivergent adults are all too familiar with. Many environments are built around a one-size-fits-all approach, which frequently falls short of meeting the unique needs of neurodivergent learners.

This can leave both children and adults feeling ‘weird,’ ‘naughty’, ‘broken,’ and ‘not good enough.’ Sensory overload, rigid schedules, being rushed through tasks, being told to stay still, being told off for things you don’t understand, and a lack of individual attention and understanding can lead to feelings of frustration, low self esteem, anxiety, and alienation. However, with the right support and understanding, we can celebrate the unique perspectives and abilities that neurodivergent individuals bring to the world, ensuring they find their place and truly thrive.

When a neurodivergent child finds a teacher or adult who understands and champions them, the impact can be transformative. These educators and advocates play a crucial role in helping neurodivergent children navigate the school environment, providing them with the encouragement and accommodations they need to succeed. Unfortunately, not every child receives such support, which is why homeschooling can be an invaluable alternative. It allows parents to create a nurturing and adaptable learning environment where their child’s unique needs and strengths are fully recognized, celebrated, and supported.

The Power of Personalised Learning

One of the key benefits of homeschooling neurodivergent children is the ability to create a personalised learning environment. This approach allows parents to design lessons around their child’s interests and learning style, making education more engaging and effective. For example, a child who loves animals might explore biology through hands-on activities, while a child who enjoys puzzles might engage with maths in a way that feels more like play than work. A child who needs to constantly move can carry out their learning outside, while a child who prefers slow, calm and structured environments can focus on a task without fear of being rushed to the next thing without having finished.

This customised approach meets children where they are and encourages them to reach their full potential. It transforms education from a standardised experience into one that is dynamic and responsive to the individual needs of the child.

Flexibility: A Gift of Time and Space

For neurodivergent children, having the time and space to learn at their own pace is crucial. Homeschooling offers this flexibility, allowing education to adapt to the child’s natural rhythms. Whether it’s starting the day with a quiet activity, taking breaks to manage sensory needs, or delving deeply into a topic of interest, homeschooling can be tailored to fit the child rather than forcing the child to fit into a rigid schedule.

This flexibility also extends beyond the home. Learning can take place in a variety of settings—whether it’s a visit to a museum, time spent in nature, or a quiet moment with a favourite book. This broader approach to education fosters a deeper connection to the world and encourages a lifelong love of learning.

Creating a Supportive Environment

Traditional school environments can be overwhelming for many neurodivergent children. Homeschooling allows parents to create a learning environment that is calm, supportive, and tailored to their child’s specific needs. This might involve setting up a quiet space for learning, incorporating sensory tools, or allowing for movement breaks. The goal is to create a space where the child feels safe, understood, and ready to learn.

This supportive environment is key to helping neurodivergent children build confidence and develop a positive relationship with learning – and with themselves. It’s about recognising their individual needs and providing the tools and space they need to succeed. Sometimes this involves undergoing your own development in order to learn about your child’s neurodivergence, such as attending courses or carrying out your own research. Don’t give up! This is a wonderful journey, and each journey has challenges.

Meaningful Socialisation

Socialisation in homeschooling can be more intentional and suited to the child’s comfort level. Neurodivergent children often benefit from smaller, more controlled social settings where they can interact in ways that feel safe and meaningful. Whether it’s through playdates with a few close friends, participation in a hobby group, involvement in community activities, or even one on one interactions with members of the public such as a friendly cashier during your family’s supermarket shop, these social experiences can help build strong, supportive relationships.

In a homeschooling context, socialisation is not about fitting in but about finding connection and community on the child’s terms.

Ensuring Support and Community for Homeschooling Parents

While homeschooling can be deeply rewarding, it also requires a significant commitment from parents, particularly when supporting neurodivergent children. Ensuring your own support system is essential. This might include connecting with other homeschooling families, joining local or online support groups, and seeking out resources specifically tailored to homeschooling neurodivergent children. Having a community of like-minded individuals can provide encouragement, share valuable insights, and offer practical advice. Additionally, taking time for self-care and ensuring you have the support you need—whether through family, friends, or professional services—will help sustain your energy and enthusiasm for the homeschooling journey.

At the Wildering Nook, we are passionate about uplifting and supporting those with neurodiversity—because we are neurodiverse ourselves! If you’re looking for guidance, community, or simply a listening ear, please reach out to us or even check out our Facebook Group. We’re here to share our experiences, offer support, and help you on this incredible journey.

Celebrating Progress

In homeschooling, every achievement, big or small, can be valued. Whether it’s mastering a new skill, completing a project, or simply making progress in an area that’s challenging, these successes are worth celebrating. This approach helps build self-esteem, fosters a positive outlook on learning and encourages you as your child’s best teacher!

When done with love and care, homeschooling goes beyond academics to nurture the child’s overall well-being. It encourages resilience, curiosity, and a strong sense of self, laying the foundation for an incredible life.

Conclusion:

Homeschooling neurodivergent children provides an opportunity to embrace their strengths and support their individual learning journey. It offers the flexibility to create a learning environment that respects their needs and honours their unique perspective on the world. By focusing on what makes each child special, homeschooling becomes a supportive path that allows neurodivergent children to flourish in their own way.

Every child’s journey is unique, and homeschooling offers the chance to celebrate that journey, providing the tools and environment they need to thrive—while also ensuring parents have the support and community they need to succeed on this rewarding path.